‘You’ve got to be willing to give up what you’ve got in order to get what you want.’
As I’ve watched my friends move on from jobs, careers, boyfriends, girlfriends, and place they’ve grown out of, I’ve often wondered what’s next for me. When I lived in Vermont, I saw dozens of college friends make the trek out west, to California or Colorado, or abroad, teaching english or just traveling.
They made it look so easy.
Recently, friends and I have been working on a healthier way of eating. Monday through Friday, I won’t crave chocolate or a sweet, I’ll make a smoothie daily for breakfast, have a salad for lunch, and eat something home cooked for dinner, whether its soup and a (gluten free) sandwich, (gluten free) pasta and meatballs, or avocado toast, my go-to.
Then, Friday happens.
Every week, it’s pretty much the same. I want to go out. I want to see friends (like the one who inspired this post!) I crave the socialization happy hour brings, and dread making time for the gym over the weekend. I just want to see my friends, and do and eat whatever I want.
Sadly, Monday mornings are rougher as a result.
Tisn’t me, though, to not observe the pattern, and put a halt on it if I’m not happy.
For example, I don’t like to drink a lot on the weekends, like I used to when I was younger. However, I drink often, and have a beer or two on various nights when I go out with friends during the week. This needs to stop, as I’ve noticed how many extra calories sneak in so quickly when you’re consuming 10 beers a week ( just not all at once!)
And working out, while I see myself working out at the gym, lifting weights, doing cardio, at times, I feel like I could be maxing my heart rate, going the longer distance, but find myself bored instead.
It’s all about balance.
By Friday, I feel healthy and light, and then want to retain the feeling throughout the weekend, but I know I can’t if I don’t prioritize what that means to me, giving up beer, cakes or donuts? Maybe eating a little less on Friday night but going to the beach on Saturday and doing some runs in the sand?
Anyone that’s succeeded in anything, whether its cultivating a healthier lifestyle or giving up a bad habit, can tell you: it’s all a trade-off. Keep focused on the reasons you’ve started in the first place, rather than feeling unfulfilled when you don’t reach a milestone right away, and don’t give up. In case you do, start fresh, and be happy- you’re trying. So many people aren’t.
What are you willing to give up in order to achieve your goals?