I have had many friends pass away. That’s a lie. I’ve had a few very close and beautiful people who I loved and cherished, all the years I knew them, pass away suddenly, without saying goodbye.
But I know how it feels to mean it when someone says, “You should live everyday like its your last day.”
It can aggravate or interrupt your daily life, to have to pretend this may be your last walk on earth. You may be pressured to do things you’ve been meaning to try, or walk to markets you have not yet visited.
But it doesn’t actually mean that. It means to live how you’ve been meaning to be living, you know, with intention.
Like, kiss your husband in the morning, or ask your daughter to a play. Stuff like that. I don’t know if you’re interested in hearing my philosophy but here we are.
Lots of good people will die, just doing what they normally do. Their lives were no less significant before their death then yours would be. As a matter of fact, many of us have said after the passing of a loved one, “Man, she really reminded me to live.”
But what is to live, exactly?
Meaning, how do we live in such a way that when we die, we have successful, peaceful feelings around our lives? How do we make ourselves stand out amongst a sea of personalities, places and things, all the world over?
One word: kindness. One word: work. One word: growth.
People’s opinions on what’s cool, or what’s in, or how to be young, or why to stay in a certain city or town change when the thing becomes uncool, or they become old, or the city or town become too crowded. People’s opinions around someone’s personality don’t change, unless the personality changes.
If you’re consistently nice, or consistently kind, people will not fail to notice this. They may admonish you for your viewing of the world as a place of beauty, but they will admire your place in it , and wish for more interaction with you.
Things may change; you may move, or get a new job, and that’s okay, but stay consistent. Let love change you, open up to new people, places, and things, and you can be okay again.
If you’re lazy, you’re going to be known as lazy. And, when you die, people will say you were a good person, and you were lazy. If you had known ahead of time you were dying, let’s say in a car wreck, and you had decided to go sky diving on your last day, you would be a lazy person who decided to spend their last day on earth sky diving.
People remember your legacy by your character, your children, your work, and your consistency.
Consistently kind with a few off days is a person’s legacy. Your car, your house, and your stock portfolio is useful in life, useless in death.
Thus, in conclusion, if you were to live today, knowing you would die tomorrow, I advise you to continue folding your underwear and socks, make a little bed for yourself and maybe take a nap, but don’t forget to be consistent. That’s what’s really important. And, if I may say so, choose wisely that which you care to be seen as consistent in.